Margaret Johnson

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Common Questions

1. How do you usually work with clients?

In short:

The ultimate goal is to give you all the practical strategies necessary, starting at the beginning, to build a solid, dynamic couple relationship.

The way I do this is by coaching, mentoring and guiding you along the path of ‘needs necessary to be met’ in order to frame a trusting, stable and forward progressing relationship with your loved one; all while understanding how to embrace your uniqueness and your partner’s uniqueness in building a synergistic relationship.

The real reason.

-Why?

99.9% of people enter a long-term commitment believing and desiring it will last forever.

Most couples truly believe their love will carry them through anything! We want to believe the spark – the chemistry – your feelings right now – will never go away…then life happens!

Many people are under the impression couples should only seek help from a counselor when their relationship is in trouble. However, seeking help before problems arise is far more effective in successful relationships, especially when discussing challenging topics such as sex, finances, religious beliefs, in-law relationships, attitudes towards marriage and a multitude of other items that could become a hotbed of contention.

Many of us have attended school for 12+ years, but most of us have not had many ‘relationship courses’ to help us understand how to DO a great relationship.

There’s TONS of information out there on what we need, to make a relationship work – trust, dependability, respect, honesty, patience, loyalty, and more – but the HOW TOs can escape us if we don’t take the time to learn from experts – those who have survived and thrived! – and then practice and grow.

If you have fallen in love, then you’re on the wonderful path where most people start, but unfortunately close to 50% of those reach a wall and take different paths… after falling out of love. (Unless you’ve learned!…and now you’re in your second or third marriage – unfortunately, though, the divorce numbers actually go up to 60% and 73% respectively!) There are also those who decide to stay in unhappy, unfulfilled marriages!

Studies reported by Psychology Today, show even those who decide to go for a trial run by living together first, have an increased divorce risk.

After 25 years of marriage, my hubby and I hit this wall and thought we were at the end of our path.

So what can be done differently?

What you do to change this is, first, to understand yourself; second, to understand your sweetheart, and finally understanding the process which can bring you together continually, rather than draw you apart.

Simple tools can help you identify small problems before they grow into big ones. Too often, not having or using these tools leads to dealing with contention using criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling and resentment.

Whatever we seek, we will find, so it’s extremely important to look for what’s going well, make it better and work on what isn’t going well before it turns into a point of no return.

-How?

Every relationship will inevitably face challenges. Improving communication and conflict resolution skills can be a deciding factor on whether these challenges can be resolved. Your commitment to learning these skills could either make it or break it. Communication is the vehicle that drives your relationship.

By identifying strengths and weaknesses in your relationship, as well as the personal strengths and weaknesses each of you have, you learn to work as a winning team!

Becoming good at anything in life requires practice, practice, practice! This goes for relationships as well. We need to establish positive habits that lead to a healthy connection with each other.

Learning the CAVVVE process will keep you from falling out of love because of the most common issues that end in divorce, which include:

  1. Not being prepared for marriage
  2. Money
  3. Lack of communication
  4. Constant arguing
  5. Weight gain and health issues
  6. Unrealistic expectations
  7. Lack of equality
  8. Lack of intimacy
  9. Infidelity
  10. Physical or emotional abuse

    Customizing your path to connection is my specialty!

2. What can I expect from the call?

We’ll discuss where you are right now; what the challenges are you might be facing; where you want to go; what are the obstacles in your way; what obstacles are out there that you might not even be aware of, preparing you for the rest of your lives, AFTER the big day! I’ll share with you the first step necessary to stay in love. And if it’s determined that working with me is your best next step toward achieving your goals and solving root issues in your relationship, as well as strengthening it to hold up through the inevitable challenges, we’ll talk about that. If it ends up not being a fit, I’ll still point you in the direction of resources that will help you. Conflict will happen. On this call, I give you the first tool to manage damage control!

3. Who is Margaret Johnson?

Happily ever after…
I met my husband, Doug, attending college in Hawaii. After one month, he asked me to marry him! Studying psychology, I knew it was crazy, but I accepted his proposal! We were engaged for six months and are now approaching 40 years of marriage. But it wasn’t always the happily-ever-after that Disney had promised! After twenty-five years, six kids, and a major medical event, it felt like we had become roommates, involved in living unconnected, parallel lives – an invisible divorce. We went to marriage counseling and the turning point came when the therapist gave us a handout with a quote saying, “Conflict is growth trying to happen.”

Through the experience of learning three simple steps to communicate, we started on the path in understanding that we each married ‘potential’ NOT ‘perfection’! Since that time, relationship science has become a passion of mine and together Doug and I practice the skills many couples learn too late or never learn. We are on our way in creating that happily-ever-after for us!

In the many couples’ workshops we’ve done across the country, the feedback we’ve heard most is, “I wish I would have known this before we got married.”

That’s why I teach tools and skills, while guiding committed couples, in getting a jumpstart on a long-lasting, positive and happily-ever-after relationship!